Metaphors are my kink

CONTENT NOTE: this post contains erotic and explicit writing

I can’t believe I’ve only just realised this!

When I’m writing, I see the pictures in my mind, and often those pictures are metaphors rather than the literal thing I’m thinking of.

Take Desire Lines, for example. In town planning, desire lines refer to the bespoke paths that pedestrians make and take rather than following the pavement or walkway that has been laid down for them.

But, for me, desire lines, are a metaphor for the paths we take on our unique sexual explorations and expressions.

Realising that metaphors are a kink for me only became truly apparent when I wrote a piece earlier called ‘Let Me Be Your Pianola’.

I got a definite thrill from seeing and feeling those pictures in my mind’s eye.

Creating the metaphor feels like a sexual act in and of itself.

It turns me on.

Curious to read more?

Here’s the Pianola piece (content warning: the metaphor alludes to BDSM practices)

You know the pianola, right? Those self-playing pianos you saw in the old movies. It looked like magic as the keys moved up and down and the music came out with no-one touching them: maybe a jaunty honky-tonk piece or an old time favourite.

The ‘magic’ comes from a roll of paper with holes punched in it. The positioning of the holes corresponds to the notes and the tempo. As the roll rotates, the music plays.

When we are in a scene, You are the composer and I am the pianola. Your deliberate and considered placement of marks and holes on my paper-skin cause me to sing to Your tune. You set the rhythm and pace. You create the tone. You play me. It can look – and feel – like magic.

Each time we meet You produce a different roll. You thread it inside me, aligning me with the music You are most hungering for that day (or night – I love it when the music plays in the dark).

I’m craving Your music. My voice calling out Your notes. You.

So, you want to write an erotic story?

Have you ever thought about writing your own erotica?

Perhaps you fancy turning one of your fantasies into a story to gift to your lover?

Or maybe you’d like to share your story with a wider audience: on the web or in a book?

Or maybe you just want to write an erotic story for yourself – completely for your own pleasure?

If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions you are probably also wondering where on earth you even begin… How you start writing… And – most importantly – who you are as a sexual being, and how you access that part of yourself to find out more about what your fantasies are.

I spoke with Nicola Humber of The Unbound Press about writing as your Unbound Sexual Self!

We talked about:

  • how our sexual selves evolve and change over time
  • how we can use writing to explore and express who we are
  • what it means to be an Unbound Woman
  • how writing can help you to reclaim your desires (and the words you want to use to express them)
  • how to start writing!

Here’s the video…

(If you want more support with writing your own sexy story, take a look at my free Erotic Writing Guidebook.)

Choosing to desire “desire” and other stories…

I had a joyful conversation with Nicola Humber of The Unbound Press about Desire Lines. Talking about all of this really lights me up, and I’m excited to share it with you!

Watch the video to hear more about:
* What desire lines are and how we can lose touch with how to follow them.

* Why exploring your sexual self is not just for those in relationships.

* How choosing to ‘desire desire’ can be incredibly powerful in terms of waking up our sexual energy.

Your story matters

We all have stories that form the unique tapestries of our lives.

Some stories we create. Others happen to us.

Some stories we tell. Others we keep secret.

Some stories we choose to share…both as medicine and healing for ourselves, and for those who will read them.

If you are ready to write YOUR story, my 3 minute guided visualisation might help you to give yourself permission, and to remember that now it is your turn to tell your story.

Our stories are our power.

The power of walking our desire lines

I was privileged to chat with the amazing Nicola Humber, author of UNBOUND, and founder of The Unbound Press.

In this relaxed but deep-diving conversation we talked about:

  • How a pair of beige shoes led me to take a leap of faith and move across the world to New Zealand.
  • What desire lines are and the power of walking our own unique desire lines in life, particularly when it comes to sexuality.
  • How I moved beyond feelings of shame and vulnerability to find the courage to share my personal stories in Desire Lines.

(I may have also confessed to my crush on Gal Gadot as Wonderwoman…!)

I hope you enjoy it!

Soul union

The impulse to create is an innate feature of human beings. So is the urge to leave our mark. From graffiti in public toilets, to great literary masterpieces; we want others to know we have existed.

The legacy of having children is common but that makes it no less miraculous and celebrated every time it occurs.

There are other creative options too.

How many of us feel we have a book within us?

Aside from wanting to be seen now, and the desire to leave something for future generations, there’s another need that creating something fulfills.

Being creative (in whatever form that takes) allows us to express something of our soul.

We are each a soul experiencing life in a human body. In this lifetime, we each get to experience the physicality and sensuality of having a body. We also have endless opportunities to experience the emotional aspects of being human. We can think and learn. We can question and explore. We can remember our soul selves and we can forget them.

When we create we are in union with our soul.